Monday, November 19, 2012


An ultimatum (Latin: the last one) is a demand whose fulfillment is requested in a specified period of time and which is backed up by a threat to be followed through in case of noncompliance. - via Wikipedia

Yesterday at my boyfriend's family party the ladies of his family urged me to give me him an ultimatum in the relationship. Apparently 2 and a half years is "too long" of a time to be dangling along just being boyfriend and girlfriend to them. They think I should be pushing him to move in with me permanently and pushing the next steps..... 

I'm not sure how to process this... I'm in no rush to get married & maybe I have been dragging my feet a little bit with pushing him to move in together with me, but wow...I'm overwhelmed about this...

I don't think the words "Ultimatium" & "Force" & "Push" should be in a relationship conversation....

To Be Continued...


  1. I wouldn't listen to them. Just do what feels right for you and him:) Muah

  2. do what feels right to you. if you are happy in the relationship as it is, than it's no one else's business what you do next!! (not to be mean to them!) ultimatum's are for people who aren't sure or secure, in my opinion!

  3. they are not in the relationship.. unless your boyfriend also feels the same way then you need to have a talk, otherwise it's none of their business.

  4. Ummm I would NOT listen to them at all. Every relationship is completely different, and you should only make moves based on what makes you comfortable. There is NO black and white when it comes to relationships. I mean, I had a friend who moved in with her (now husband) on their SECOND DATE. And it took them six years to finally tie the knot. And my parents never moved in with each other, just got married three months after meeting. And my boyfriend and I have been living together for four years, with no plans on getting hitched any time soon. See what I mean? Every case is different. I think it was silly of them to even say such things to you!

  5. i completely agree. if you felt differently, and WANTED to get married, then maybe it'd be a different story? (maybe!?) but you don't, so it just about what you feel about it, and him of course.

    i've been with my boyfriend for 12 years (since 8th grade) and we have two kids, and still aren't married, and really are in no rush. i don't care that much about getting married, honestly, i know we're going to stay together and i don't need a ring and marriage certificate to make me feel better about it. i think a relationship is way more than marriage.

    good luck <3
    xox, amber


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