The Stepford Wives (1975)
I want to confess that with Craig and I's moving in together date coming soon, I'm dreading falling into the Stepford wife trap that I could already be in. I'll explain...
Over the past two years, I have chosen to keep Tropicana Low Acid orange juice, French Vanilla Coffeemate creamer, Entemann's pop 'em donuts, and his favorite K-cups in my place just because they are his favorites. I don't feel like I'm spoiling him, I just have felt like I'm making my place welcoming to him when he stays over. I make sure he has a clean towel, I set my alarm a lil earlier to make sure he's up in the morning, and I pack him a lunch usually of left overs while he's in the shower. I have chosen to do these things and more as his girlfriend & I haven't thought twice about it. I love hearing "I have the best girlfriend ever" as he pops one of those mini donuts into his mouth.
But I'm suddenly asking myself if I really in fact do too much for him? Did I really watch too many episodes of Bewitched and 50's sitcoms when I was younger to think I have to do this stuff for him? Have I subconsciously watched his mother (Craig lives with his mom) do too much for him and think that I need to reciprocate these lil acts to keep him?
I'm really at a loss. I think I'm trying to be a good hostess because we will be living at my place when the time comes, but when we do move in together will I be able to drop the hostess role & will do more things together as a team? Or will he expect me to do all these lil things because I've done them up until now?
Pretty much it's going to boil down to this:
When you move in with someone, how much do things really change?
Does the relationship stay in it's normal routine patterns or is there a complete overhaul...I'd love to hear your past experiences on the matter.
I have to talk to him. Craig has lived with an ex-girlfriend, but this a whole new world to me. We have good communication when it comes to us, but ahhh how to bring up this lil possible thorn. Craig and I got invited to Little Italy in New York City for a birthday party and it's about a 40 minute car ride for me all the way to there. That's a possible 80 minutes to talk about these things...It'll be perfect!
I would absolutely love other opinions on this subject!!
Please don't hestitate to be brutally honest.
The Stepford Wives (2004)